Living with people who aren’t body positive.

Living with people can be hard, you move out of your home and move in with random people that you’ve never met before. But what do you do when these people clash with your core values?

Telling yourself that you love yourself, shifting your mindset and deciding that you truly believe in the body positivity movements aims, is a fantastic step. And once you’ve internalised this, you feel like you’re walking on air. 

 Until you realise that there are still so many people in this world that don’t feel the same way about themselves. That still use FAT as an insult (THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING FAT! Please stop making out that it’s a bad thing), that still pass unneeded comments on the way people look for absolutely no reason, that still tear away at themselves and still feel insecure about things I didn’t even realise were issues.  (Do my shoulders look too big?) I mean shoulders?? I didn’t even know that small shoulders were a fashion trend! 

 Being around people like this is hard. There is no question about it, Its painful to have to cringe every time you hear someone fat shame, or having to listen to someone try to compare you or themselves to someone else AGAIN. (Yeah but she’s flawless, not like us!) It’s like you just want to grab hold of them and shake them! (Thankyou arctic monkeys for that inspo) 

 It’s even worse when they preach body positivity and yet don’t support anyone else, and instead tear them down. It’s people like that who are missing the whole point of the movement. 

 So how do we deal with this? 

 Well how would you deal with any other form of discrimination? 

 E D U C A T I O N. 

 The next time you hear someone fat shame themselves, or someone else. The next time you are a victim of comparison, whether it was intentional or not. The next time you hear someone comment negatively on the way someone looks. The next time is the LAST time you stand for it. 

 Stand up to your flatmates, your friends or even your family. Knowing and understanding that the things that they are saying are upsetting or insulting is the first step on their own self- love adventure.  It would be cruel to allow them to continue to be discriminative, especially when they probably don’t realise they’re doing it!